Do erotica writers become horny while they write?

The other day I received an e-mail from a reader with a question. He wanted to know if I became excited while I wrote. I assume he meant if I become horny while I write erotica.

I think that most erotica authors at some point become excited while writing, I guess it's a good way of knowing if what you are writing is good or not. I don't know where they get their ideas from but personally I often use my own emotions to write what the characters feel, and when doing that I bring up experiences from the past. So at one time in my life they defiantly made me horny or I wouldn't remember them.

On the other hand, if you write erotica to earn money you might write in a niche that is really your not taste. You do it because you know that the story will sell because there is a demand. In this case I wouldn't become excited, S&M for example.

None of the major publishers publish, incest or bestiality stories, but I suppose some of the writers in those markets have at one time or another had such thoughts, and it excited them. On sites like Literotica writers can basically upload any kind of stories. I think many of the writers there upload stories that excite them. It's free and they make no money doing it, but they get a release from their fantasies. Having said that, I don't think the authors of incest and such stories do it themselves.

So, back to the original question: Does writing erotica excite me? Yes, it does, but only in the niches that I write because I like them, not because they sell a lot of books. For example, my Family affairs books sell well, but it's not something I will or have ever done.

About vampire romance and erotica.

What’s up with the vampire stories? You see them in books and short stories, even on TV. The handsome lonely young man with that sad look in his eyes stalks the young girl that he is obsessed with and then when she finds out, she falls madly in love with him.

I do not have anything against Vampire stories, I think they are rather cool, but if you take your average romance or erotica vampire story it is often a reflection of a crime, stalking.

Do we as women fantasize about being followed by a blood sucker and deep inside we want to be bitten and enter the world of the dead? Not me, I like being alive.

I have read a few and apart from Interview With a Vampire, which is not romance nor erotica they all have the same theme. In IWV at least there were an honest to god struggle between the characters and when Lestat converts Claudia both he and Louise realize what they have done, and they both suffer the consequences.

Going back to the romance and erotica. We have a girl in her late teens sometimes even a minor who is stalked by a vampire. When he makes himself known to her, she feels excited because it is the first time a man is interested in her. Now, why would she? I mean the guy is creepy, dead, and probably smells pretty bad. What makes this kind of story so popular with younger women? I have no idea, but I would love to know.

Moving on, I wrote an erotic story, but I can’t publish it on Amazon, I think. Why? The werewolf has sex with the young women while he is a wolf. That would be bestiality according to Amazon. Does anyone know if they make exceptions to the rule when it comes to fantasy?

Have a great week everyone and I hope you had a wonderful Halloween, with or without vampires.

Does Erotica writers live as they write?

When I was in high school (many years ago) my English teacher told me that I should write about something I knew about. He said this because I told him I had no idea what to write about.

Fast forward some twenty five years and I am writing Erotica. Do I know anything about steamy sex, the use of sex toys, gay sex, or any other topic I write about, no not really. But, I can fantasize about it and put it into words. Also, I can talk to people who have had such experience and use it for my novellas.

This brings me to the topic in question; does erotica writers live as they write? I don’t think so. I think most of us are regular women and men with day jobs who at night (or morning) close the door to our writing room and there, in the darkness, let our fantasies take form on the screen in front of us. There we can dig deep into our souls and find those things that might not be talked in polite company or even not so polite company.  Maybe we have a fantasy about trying to be with someone of the same sex, but on the other side of that door are a spouse and kids, and maybe a dog. So instead of running off to the next town to fulfill this fantasy it is written down in the form of a novella or a book. If we can transfer our emotions in the right way it will become a great story.

On the other hand, there are those authors who look for niches on the internet, they check key words and so on to see what topic in trending within erotica and then they write about it. I think these stories are not as good as the ones that actually come from the author’s soul.

What kind of author are you?

What happens if you don’t have any secret fantasies you can write about? Nothing, but I don’t believe it. I’m pretty sure all of us have something that is lurking inside and just has to be put down in words.

Happy writing!

A follow up on my post Dark Fantasies published September 2013.

Just over a year ago I wrote a post called Dark Fantasies. I had sold several books about pseudo-incest and trannies which surprised me at the time.

The trend hasn’t changed those topics are my most sold books. I have added a few more in the same genre and they are also selling well.

I still haven’t figured out why these are popular, what I do know is that the topics are very sensitive and I had to rewrite one of them due to Amazon’s bots or human reviewers. Not a major problem, but a hitch.

Maybe we are secretly curious and with the invention of the e-book we can read about all the topics that just a few years ago we could never do in public. Imagine sitting on a train with a pocket book called, “Anna’s love for daddy.” It wouldn’t be possible, or at least not very comfortable. These days the name of the book can be a lot more provocative and no one around you would know.

Maybe reading lets us understand our own sexuality and curiosities. We can read about topics we would never talk about with friends or families. Then we let our own fantasies take us to that special place.

Writing in diffrent Erotica Genres

In how many ways can you describe a sex scene between a man and a woman?

You got your basic positions, you add some oral sex, maybe a lot of caressing and kissing, some sweet words or maybe some dirty words. Don’t forget the thundering hearts and the nails running down their backs.

When I started off writing Erotica earlier this year a choose a very plain theme: a young woman from a sheltered life moving to the big city where she met people with a lot more experience which opened up her eyes. The novella became the Nat Smiley series.

In these stories the sex is very plain, nothing spectacular apart from some big male parts and some very nice bodies, but the story’s are basically about a young woman having regular sex and learning from new experiences.

When it was time to write something new I felt I had to look at other sub genre within Erotica where I could explore more. I wrote the two books on TGirls, and two on Strap On sex. Why?

First of all, the writers who have written a lot of Erotica and are very successful say you should never use your own experiences. Why? Because they are just plain vanilla, everyone has done it. What you need to do is write about amazing sex, things most people might fantasize about but will never do, and that will become a better book. I followed this advice and wrote the books I mention above, and guess what? They sold a lot better than the Nat Smiley series. I have never been with a transvestite, I have never had strap on sex, so how do I write about it? Well, it’s called imagination, I imagined I was one of those characters and thought about what I would do, or how I would react in certain situations. 

I think that Erotica writers should try to write something outside their regular Genre, if you write about Bondage, try some Taboo for example. It makes your sex scene come alive because you are coming at them from a different angle, it lets you use your imagination in a different way and it shows in your writing. Now, certain genres might not appeal to you, for example I don’t write about Alien sex or similar because I don’t find it interesting. 

I also suggest that trying a different genre might make you some extra sales, because if you are lucky you hit on a lot of people's fantasy and there might not be many books under that topic.

Others say you should stick to your genre because that is what the readers expect when they see your name. True, I totally agree, but by writing in a different genre you might find new readers that after reading your book look at other titles and find a book under a different genre which they find interesting and buy, you never know what fantasies a person might have.