Do erotica writers become horny while they write?

The other day I received an e-mail from a reader with a question. He wanted to know if I became excited while I wrote. I assume he meant if I become horny while I write erotica.

I think that most erotica authors at some point become excited while writing, I guess it's a good way of knowing if what you are writing is good or not. I don't know where they get their ideas from but personally I often use my own emotions to write what the characters feel, and when doing that I bring up experiences from the past. So at one time in my life they defiantly made me horny or I wouldn't remember them.

On the other hand, if you write erotica to earn money you might write in a niche that is really your not taste. You do it because you know that the story will sell because there is a demand. In this case I wouldn't become excited, S&M for example.

None of the major publishers publish, incest or bestiality stories, but I suppose some of the writers in those markets have at one time or another had such thoughts, and it excited them. On sites like Literotica writers can basically upload any kind of stories. I think many of the writers there upload stories that excite them. It's free and they make no money doing it, but they get a release from their fantasies. Having said that, I don't think the authors of incest and such stories do it themselves.

So, back to the original question: Does writing erotica excite me? Yes, it does, but only in the niches that I write because I like them, not because they sell a lot of books. For example, my Family affairs books sell well, but it's not something I will or have ever done.

Greta and the twins Part 1 available on Literotica

Good morning,

I decided to upload one of my Fantasy Erotica novellas to Literotica here is the link.

Greta and the twins.

Greta Samson is a American student who travels to Germany to follow in the footsteps of the Grimm brothers. During a bicycle ride she has an accident and when shy wakes up she finds her self in a cabis, deeb in the forest.

Otto and Davos are twins with a dark secret. Will the beautiful Greta be able to help them or will she end up another snack?

Age diffrence.

I have just finished watching the movie “Unfaithful” with Richard Gere and Diane Lane, I liked it, but it gave me some food for thought.

If you look around on the streets where you live and the restaurants you visit, even at your work you will see a lot more men with younger girlfriends than you would see older women with younger boyfriends, why is that?

The most common response is, “he has money”. OK, let’s assume that younger women are drawn to older men with money, it is justified. Well, what about older women with a lot of money? Ask any gigolo and he will tell you, “Yeah, plenty of older women want my services.” But we are not talking about paid sex; I am talking about real emotions here, love, attraction etc. Why are there more older men with younger women than vice versa?

I think the simple reason is that men are attracted to women because they like the way she looks. And women, including myself, are attracted to the way men think. So, if you take your average twenty-five year old male, what would he be looking for in a woman? A firm ass, nice boobs, a slender body and so on. What would a woman at the same age be looking for? Maturity, a steady income, an intellectual man, a man who doesn’t stay out late watching football and drinking beer with his friends.

What I think, and you are welcome to argue my points, is that women look for security, love, a relationship, and men who will be there to support them in the good and the bad. Men look for more physical values like a great body, and that’s why you don’t see many fifty-year old women with twenty-five year old boyfriends.

I’m an erotica writer and I spend a lot of time watching people and how they interact. I have seen many hard bodied young men who I would just love to take home and have a fun night with, but why don’t I? It’s rather simple, what the heck do we talk about in the morning? Maybe his next party, the football game that’s on at night, or his new jeans? We have nothing in common, except sex. While sex is fun, it’s not something to build a steady relationship on. A relationship needs communication, respect, common interests, and so much more.

About vampire romance and erotica.

What’s up with the vampire stories? You see them in books and short stories, even on TV. The handsome lonely young man with that sad look in his eyes stalks the young girl that he is obsessed with and then when she finds out, she falls madly in love with him.

I do not have anything against Vampire stories, I think they are rather cool, but if you take your average romance or erotica vampire story it is often a reflection of a crime, stalking.

Do we as women fantasize about being followed by a blood sucker and deep inside we want to be bitten and enter the world of the dead? Not me, I like being alive.

I have read a few and apart from Interview With a Vampire, which is not romance nor erotica they all have the same theme. In IWV at least there were an honest to god struggle between the characters and when Lestat converts Claudia both he and Louise realize what they have done, and they both suffer the consequences.

Going back to the romance and erotica. We have a girl in her late teens sometimes even a minor who is stalked by a vampire. When he makes himself known to her, she feels excited because it is the first time a man is interested in her. Now, why would she? I mean the guy is creepy, dead, and probably smells pretty bad. What makes this kind of story so popular with younger women? I have no idea, but I would love to know.

Moving on, I wrote an erotic story, but I can’t publish it on Amazon, I think. Why? The werewolf has sex with the young women while he is a wolf. That would be bestiality according to Amazon. Does anyone know if they make exceptions to the rule when it comes to fantasy?

Have a great week everyone and I hope you had a wonderful Halloween, with or without vampires.

Writing sex scenes

Writing a good sex scene is not easy. Some authors love to write them others not so much, but they are essential in Romance and Erotica. Depending on what you write they are more or less detailed and descriptive. Mine are quite graphic, but that’s just the way I like to write.

It is important that you are familiar with the human autonomy. You have to know what makes up the male and female genital and not only that, you have to learn to use different words for the same part or your writing becomes repetitive. There are several sites on the internet that have a great selection of words that you can use. Some of them are just funny and not very good to use others work fine.

When you write your sex scene remember, it has to be somewhat realistic. You don’t want your reader to think: wow, that’s physically impossible. Try to visualize the scene and make sure hands, legs, and so on are in the right position. Clothes are another thing that is easy to make mistakes with. If the woman entered the room in a dress, the man can’t unzip her jeans five minutes later.

Pull, push, roll, unbutton, unzip, lower, tear are examples of word I like to use for undressing people. There are many more, just check any dictionary. You can either write:

He rolled down her lace panties or He tore off her lace panties.

It all depends on with what intensity you want to write.

When it comes to describing the actual scene you have to decide on what you are comfortable with and in what genre you are writing in. Here is an example.

He unclasped her bra and let her breasts free, her nipples were like little pink berries and hardened under his touch.

When he tore off her bra her tits burst out, and as soon as he touched her nipples, they became like little bullets.

If you are new at writing you want to read as many books as possible in your genre so you learn how others write. Then you can adjust to what you feel comfortable with.

It is also good if you learn the most common erogenous zones on the body. Apart from the obvious ones you have, the back, the back of the legs, neck, throat, ears, earlobes, feet and toes. Use them as much as you want to build up the scene.

I would like to comment on something that I think is important. The point of view, often sex scenes are written from one person’s POV only, which is fine if the entire story is written that way. But, for a more emotional read it should be written from both partner's point of view. Even if you are writing a three ways, or group sex, it is important that the reader feels what all the parties involve feel. If it’s a group scene, it might be difficult, and if you have ten or more people involved try to use at least four or five of their POV’s. This creates another issue. If you are a man writing, how do you know what or how a female orgasm feels? How does it build up, and how does it end? The same for women who write about men, but the answer is simple, ask your friends. They might blush, and ask why you want to know, just tell them you are doing some research. Also look on the web, lot’s of people write about their orgasms.

A lot of new writers mix up the words “cum” and “come”. Here is how it works.

He came with a loud moan and his cum fell on her back in warm droplets.

Maybe a bit graphic, but you get the idea.

Does Erotica writers live as they write?

When I was in high school (many years ago) my English teacher told me that I should write about something I knew about. He said this because I told him I had no idea what to write about.

Fast forward some twenty five years and I am writing Erotica. Do I know anything about steamy sex, the use of sex toys, gay sex, or any other topic I write about, no not really. But, I can fantasize about it and put it into words. Also, I can talk to people who have had such experience and use it for my novellas.

This brings me to the topic in question; does erotica writers live as they write? I don’t think so. I think most of us are regular women and men with day jobs who at night (or morning) close the door to our writing room and there, in the darkness, let our fantasies take form on the screen in front of us. There we can dig deep into our souls and find those things that might not be talked in polite company or even not so polite company.  Maybe we have a fantasy about trying to be with someone of the same sex, but on the other side of that door are a spouse and kids, and maybe a dog. So instead of running off to the next town to fulfill this fantasy it is written down in the form of a novella or a book. If we can transfer our emotions in the right way it will become a great story.

On the other hand, there are those authors who look for niches on the internet, they check key words and so on to see what topic in trending within erotica and then they write about it. I think these stories are not as good as the ones that actually come from the author’s soul.

What kind of author are you?

What happens if you don’t have any secret fantasies you can write about? Nothing, but I don’t believe it. I’m pretty sure all of us have something that is lurking inside and just has to be put down in words.

Happy writing!

Amazon or Smashwords

When it comes down to deciding on which online outlet you want to use for your books you got two main players, Amazon and Smashwords.

There are distinct differences between the two and they both have benefits. Amazon is the biggest and has the most readers and the most books. But, that doesn’t mean Smashwords is bad, it’s just different.

Amazon: The world’s largest online book retailer.

The benefits going with Amazon are many, here are a few.

·         User friendly: Easy to upload books.

·         They have the KDP Select (more on that further down).

·         Various payment methods to receive your money.

The not so good things are:

·         You can’t get paid by PayPal.

·         You have to send them some paperwork before you can receive money. This is irritating if you live abroad.

·         If you use KDP Select you can’t have that book on Smashwords.

Smashwords

Benefits

·         Easy to sign up.

·         Get paid by PayPal.

·         Access to other online bookstores like iBook and Kobe.

·         You can put a book as permafree to attract new readers.

·         Multiple platforms. Apart from Smashwords site your books are being sold as a PDF, on iBook, Kobe and others.

Not so good.

·         Difficult to format your book to their format.

·         Less readers use them.

·         Harder to market.

KDP Select

This is Amazon’s way to help you publish and manage your book sales. After you have signed up for your Amazon account and uploaded your book you click on Enroll and you are in. You can earn between 35% to 70% profit on your sales, depending on in what regions you are selling. You get five days a month where you can offer your book for free to attract new readers. This has been discussed on many forums. Some writers like giving away books to get new readers, some don’t, it’s all up to you. After three months you have the option to get out of KDP if you want. If you don’t unclick the KDP option your book will reenroll automatically for another three months.

Formatting for Smashwords.

This is hard the first time and can be very frustrating. There are several great blogs on the subject so just make a Google search and you will get the help you need. Once you have done it, it’s easy.

What I like to do is, when I have a new book I enroll it in KDP and put it up for free. Hopefully this will get me some reviews. Once the three months have past, I put it up on Smashwords as well and there I add the good reviews in the book description. You can get reviews on Smashwords too, but it is a lot harder.

Both Amazon and Smashwords offer author pages where you can write something about yourself and link to your blog or website, and are easy to use. On Smashwords you can take the “Author Interview” where a set of questions are asked and you answer them. This way the readers learn more about you. If you write Erotica like I do, Smashwords and the partners seem to be a little more flexible about content. Amazon can be very touchy about covers and content.

In the end you have to decide what fits you the best. Read as much as you can about both sites and try to search for books, look at reviews to learn how the site interacts with the reader.