Writing sex scenes

Writing a good sex scene is not easy. Some authors love to write them others not so much, but they are essential in Romance and Erotica. Depending on what you write they are more or less detailed and descriptive. Mine are quite graphic, but that’s just the way I like to write.

It is important that you are familiar with the human autonomy. You have to know what makes up the male and female genital and not only that, you have to learn to use different words for the same part or your writing becomes repetitive. There are several sites on the internet that have a great selection of words that you can use. Some of them are just funny and not very good to use others work fine.

When you write your sex scene remember, it has to be somewhat realistic. You don’t want your reader to think: wow, that’s physically impossible. Try to visualize the scene and make sure hands, legs, and so on are in the right position. Clothes are another thing that is easy to make mistakes with. If the woman entered the room in a dress, the man can’t unzip her jeans five minutes later.

Pull, push, roll, unbutton, unzip, lower, tear are examples of word I like to use for undressing people. There are many more, just check any dictionary. You can either write:

He rolled down her lace panties or He tore off her lace panties.

It all depends on with what intensity you want to write.

When it comes to describing the actual scene you have to decide on what you are comfortable with and in what genre you are writing in. Here is an example.

He unclasped her bra and let her breasts free, her nipples were like little pink berries and hardened under his touch.

When he tore off her bra her tits burst out, and as soon as he touched her nipples, they became like little bullets.

If you are new at writing you want to read as many books as possible in your genre so you learn how others write. Then you can adjust to what you feel comfortable with.

It is also good if you learn the most common erogenous zones on the body. Apart from the obvious ones you have, the back, the back of the legs, neck, throat, ears, earlobes, feet and toes. Use them as much as you want to build up the scene.

I would like to comment on something that I think is important. The point of view, often sex scenes are written from one person’s POV only, which is fine if the entire story is written that way. But, for a more emotional read it should be written from both partner's point of view. Even if you are writing a three ways, or group sex, it is important that the reader feels what all the parties involve feel. If it’s a group scene, it might be difficult, and if you have ten or more people involved try to use at least four or five of their POV’s. This creates another issue. If you are a man writing, how do you know what or how a female orgasm feels? How does it build up, and how does it end? The same for women who write about men, but the answer is simple, ask your friends. They might blush, and ask why you want to know, just tell them you are doing some research. Also look on the web, lot’s of people write about their orgasms.

A lot of new writers mix up the words “cum” and “come”. Here is how it works.

He came with a loud moan and his cum fell on her back in warm droplets.

Maybe a bit graphic, but you get the idea.